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Ugh… My Life! I think my bf is making a mistake!?

Ugh… My Life! I think my bf is making a mistake!?
Repost with extra info: Ugh… My Life! Army Officer Wife?
I repost this question so that answerers will better understand my view of the issue as last time I was chewed out for being shallow which I said was true to a point but I would like to say that I would NEVER leave my bf/future hubby because he became enlisted or would be any less involved with his doing well, BUT i am saying that it would be something I didnt like and would have to adjust to.

I don’t know exactly what kind of advice I am looking for but I need something.

Ok my boyfriend of 5 years (6 in april) and I are in college together. I am graduating this semester, he is not. But the plan is/was for him to commision as an officer in the army from our school’s ROTC, but because of his gpa (with 3 semsters left) they want to dissenroll him.

They say he has basically 2 options
-he can enlist (leave school)

-pay back the money they have paid in his scholarship for school (out of state intuition issue)

He has a hearing coming up on this issue. I really would like for him to plead his case about his lackluster gpa (multiple family deaths 4 in three years, travel, missed classes, etc.) so that he can stay in ROTC and school. But, he has basically made the decision to just forgoe pleading his case and enlist just so he wont have to deal with anything. Now what I am about to say will seem shallow and I realize that so go easy on me.

I dont want him to be enlisted, I feel as if it is beneath him to leave school to do something that he could have done straight out of high school. EDIT(I feel that it is important for him to stay in school. It would be highly dissappointing for someone to be so close and not finish, THAT is my issue in how people would see him. Some never go to college, and those that do hardly finish. I am from a military town and so many of my hs peers went enlisted and never even tried college because that is all they know…the army, but i do not strive for mediocrity and him being enlisted at this point would be just that. AND that goes for his particular case, there is nothing wrong with being enlisted but not in my bf’s situation.)
He says school will be there after he enlists and he can go online… (ugh) and he can go to OCS but none of those things are a sure deal it could be years before he goes back to finish school and OCS could happen NEVER during his enlisted career.

I’m just all discumbobulated. HELP!

Just for the record:
-he is an exemplary cadet! wins all the awards and is always voted best cadet in the battalion by his cadre and his peers! His cadre would love for him to stay in the program its the ppl over them that see the issue on paper and not realizing that they could be losing out on someone that truly wants to be an officer and has the skills to do so strictly from military scince and leadership standpoint. Also his major is electrical engineering technology and to say the least it is a bit more involved than most of his ROTC contemporaries who have 3.5 gpas that majored in criminal justice. Which I personally feel is a joke major.

DEAR ANSWERERS: HIS DECISIONS AFFECT HIM AS WELL AS ME, SO PLEASE NO ANSWERS TALKING ABOUT LET HIM MAKE HIS OWN DECISIONS AND STUFF LIKE THAT. I know this post is a lot more shallow than I really am, so dont harp on that issue.

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3 Responses to "Ugh… My Life! I think my bf is making a mistake!?"

  1. Jery E says:
    nobody really cares what you want. WE DONT WANT STUPID GUYS AS OFFICERS WE WANT STUPID GUYS LIKE YOUR BF AS ENLISTED BULLET SPONGES.
  2. kwazeeme says:
    I understand the position you are trying to convey here. Trouble is, the choice is his. He is the only one who can say what will be the best choice for him. As his gf your only job is to support him regardless of the decision he makes. The only control you have in this situation is whether you will stay with him or walk away. I am sure you have offended many people by saying that by your standards enlisting is mediocre. Enlistees sign their lives away for you to be free to call them mediocre. That to me is honorable. He says school will be there when he gets back so what’s the problem? He can still be an officer just maybe not in your time frame. You are in college which is also honorable. You have your whole lives ahead of you. Let him make his choices and and either support him with love or walk away.
  3. Self says:
    I understand you want him to make right choice and make a good future to both of you. School is important and it is going to affect promotions and stuff. BUT all you can do is show him the pros and cons in a calm mind and let him decide. If he is not willing to continue for some reason except that as that is hat he wants to do. Do your best in your graduation and try to get a good Carree out of it. may be later – after a while he will go for online class and will complete his degree (Just hope)
    You are not being shallow, you just want best for both. BUT all you can do is show him a path, it is up to him to select that or not. Even if he didnt go to college doesnt mean he is less focused. may be that is what he is feeling right now, and it may change later.

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